How I understand autism

as a mom with an autistic son,

as a wife in a neurodiverse marriage,

& as a physician caring for patients in the ER

I learned about autism in medical school and I cared for autistic patients every day as a doctor in a busy urban ER, but when my son was diagnosed with ASD and my husband - 16 years after we fell in love - discovered his own neurodiversity I realized that autism was nothing like what I thought it was. Ultimately, it was the autistic community and the two amazing autists I love, that taught me what it means to be autistic and changed how I care for and support the autistic humans, especially during times of overwhelm, pain and stress.

Thank you to my friend at Salt For My Squid for use of their incredible artwork

The Theory of Monotropism:

“Autism is not a set of deficits, but rather a different, more focused strategy for using attention”

- Dr. Wenn Lawson

The non-autistic (polytropic) mind explores the world with a broad, diffuse focus.

The autistic (monotropic) mind explores the world with narrow & tightly focused attention.

How We Pay Attention Changes Everything

Details within the beam of monotropic focus are noticed with incredible clarity and depth; however, details outside the area of focus may be missed entirely. This changes the way the autistic mind learns, develops and understands emotion. It leads to deep knowledge within areas of interest but can make it challenging to ignore unwanted or intrusive thoughts, sensations, or feelings.

Smells smell stronger

Sounds sound louder

Itches feel itchier

Knowledge is deeper

Feelings can be all consuming

or seemingly not at all

The Beauty of the Monotropic Mind

  • "Every single thing has its own unique beauty. People with autism get to cherish this beauty, as if it's a kind of blessing given to us.”

    ― Naoki Higashida,

  • "I believe that autistic people have a unique way of looking at the world, which can be incredibly valuable."

    John Elder Robinson

  • "If you've met one individual with autism, you've met one individual with autism."

    Stephen Shore, EdD

The human response to fear & overwhelm: Meltdowns, Shutdowns, Withdrawal, Escape

Challenging Autistic Undesired

Innate human behaviors

Meltdown, shutdown and withdraw happens when the mind becomes "hooked" on a negative stimulus—whether a sensory experience (a harsh sound, uncomfortable texture), a thought (a painful memory, a worrisome prediction), or an intense emotion—the amygdala, the brain's fear center, is immediately activated …

Big Feelings

A collection of personal essays and reflections on autism, sensory processing, mindfulness and the power of how we pay attention.

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